Why do you need great Why

Peter Barton entrepreneur was on top of the world.

Until he was.

Barton lived life about everyone dreamed, they took good care of themselves well for themselves and was a great husband and Dad to her family.

And then the fateful day His world was broken:

Diagnosis of terminal cancer.

The work became less important, other experiences ceased to have meaning; He tried to pick up pieces while grieving the future he couldn’t live. He couldn’t see that his children grow up or grow old with her husband.

Barton shared these thoughts and experiences in an absolutely heart book Doesn’t fade, And one passage is always stuck with me.

One day, Petrovo’s body was destroyed, it is subject to cancer, pain is pain and his spirit was lower than ever. He was defeated, he told his supportive wife:

“I just can’t see the point.”

She replied, “Well, find one.”

Finding the point has become a point.

Barton received a lifetime sentence and chose to “find the point of life” by writing a book that his children could read. The book other people can read and analyze the meaning in one’s own life.

I thought “Finding a point has become a point” While reviewing the other of my favorite books, inspired by a recent episode on friend Bretta McKai The art of masculinity Podcast.

Man’s searching for meaning

Victor Frankl was a survivor of the Holocaust, a psychotherapist and a creator of type therapy called “Logotherapy”.

After the survival of the horrors of Aušvic and other concentration camps, he wrote the first draft for his book, Man’s searching for meaning, for nine days.

He even planned to publish him anonymously, but in the last second he was convinced to fasten his name to add a little gravity to his story about survival.

Since then, it has been created to sell 16+ million copies and translate to 50+ languages.

Frankl’s School of Thoughts, Logotherapy, is built around the idea that “meaning of life is to find meaning of life for each individual person. It is often referred to known for a well-known saying:

“He who has why live because he can handle almost anything.”

Through this book, Frankl explains his thoughts and thinking about life while watching thousands of people die or kill himself.

What in this short book in this short book is Frankla’s ability to find meaning and hope that humanity will ever be ever committed in the middle of one of the worst human crimes ever committed.

The other half of the book dives deeper into “logotherapy”, encouraging us to find our specific “meaning”.

“The meaning of life differs from man to man, day by day and hour.

> Therefore, it is important, therefore, is not the meaning of life in general, but the specific meaning of a person’s life at a given time. “

You may not be diagnosed with a terminal cancer, nor suffer the crimes of the concentration camp.

But there was probably a point in your life where you are looking for: “Why the hell do I do what I do?”

We might think we ask the question means that something was wrong with us. That in a moment we don’t live. That we need help.

Frankl feels different. He thinks that question is critical and healthy:

“The biggest task for any person is to find meaning in their life.”

What if that is an unpleasant conversation with you was actually part of the process?

What if you ask that question is the point?

Your “big Why”

We talk a lot about “What’s your great Why?” Here in a disarray for fitness forest.

If we logically think about it, we try to force ourselves to do things We are not wired (or required).

Of course We don’t want to burn extra calories, we get up early to practice and avoid our face with a comfortable food.

An additional effort is needed, we need to feel hungry, we need to change our behavior. And our brains don’t want to do anything from it!

This may not be the “meaning of life” type “… but it is a really powerful reminder to help us stay accordingly when we will give us life anything but consistency:

• Why will we get up at 5am and go for a walk when it’s cold outside?
• Why should we say that salads and skinny proteins when there are cookies and donuts?
• Why are I sweating (gross) and pick up weights (unpleasant)?
• Why are we forced to inhale hard and lead 5k or say that at the yoga class where we feel deeply – self-conscious?

We talk a lot about it Our coaching clients and members NF community:

Have a permanent reminder Why It can often be a thing that keeps us on the road during these most difficult moments after the motivation is worn out:

We may want to violate the generational cycle of unhealthy food relationship we have learned from parents.

Maybe we want our children to see that we can be a strong mom, that it’s okay to sweat and push us.

Maybe we want to feel better in yourself when we look in the mirror or to know that we always feel better after Training than we felt beforeExercise?

Your challenge this week is to ask yourself why you are here:

• Why are you willing to pass uncomfortable thoughts and feelings coming with changes?
• Why are you willing to try to learn a new skill or adjust how you eat?
• Why are you willing to get up early and spend less time on your couch?

Continue deeper with your reasons. Continue to ask “Why” and see what comes out.

Write it down.

Put it on the message and paste one on the refrigerator, a bathroom mirror, automatic control panel.

-Steve

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