Growth of Comfort Nerd Fitness

Stephen Wilson Jr. Was a scientist who works for Mars, Inc. (Yes, candy company).

One day, his boss pulled him into the office and said something that changed his life:

“Stephen, you’ll be promoted soon.”

It is usually a reason to celebrate, it meant like a warning of his boss.

In the last life, Stephen was a guitarist in a small indie rock band. He also spent his own songs of songs.

His boss knew Stephen Damn a good texting and where he really belonged.

He said Stephen about gold foxes:

“You are fine for promotion and make you harder for the next level.

And you’re kind of at the crossroads.

Because if you take (promotion), as I took 30 years ago, your dreams to be a songwriter, they will not leave them. This will consume each part of you.

Currently you can write songs and do this job, but 6 months from now on I’m not sure you can. So I just want to give you a warning. “

That tiny voice in Stephen’s head, it was there for years and years, he began to become louder.

6 weeks later, with that inner voice now on a deafish volume, he put on his 2 weeks of announcements, which is confused everyone (except his boss and his wife).

Started bartending and waited for the tables to end up to meet while protecting his craft, trying to get publishing offers in public music … as he rejects because he refuses ​Songs “Bro Country”​:

He was told: “You are writing Real Songs. We can’t do Nuthin ‘with that … “

For years later, after the modest success of writing for other musicians, finally worked the courage and experience and he clicked to start recording his songs.

And last year, he finally presented his debit album, Dad sonWhich stone called one of the best albums from 2023. years.

Recently Stephen turned off a ​Vilica Cover Ben E. King’s “Stand next to me”​ which I listened to about 10,000 times in the past month.

(Seriously, please see this video. It will give you goosebumps!).

Gold foxes vs Uncomfortable expansion

From 2008-2010, I lived a double life.

I had my day job in the sixth man, helping promoting and manufacture floating music festivals. But I also spent my nights and weekends working on a small website helping nerds fit in.

My boss April and my angel mentor (who owned a job) both knew where my heart was; They encouraged me to chase the uncomfortable future of trying to prevent career stands.

16 years later we still go strong!

In Oliver Burkeman ​Four thousand weeks​He encourages us to set a certain issue when making decisions in life:

“Where in life or at your work you are currently looking for comfort, when what is called is a little discomfort?”

Asking “what would make me happiest” most likely to lead us to a short-term, comfortable, safe option.

Instead, we should think that path will make us grow as a person or the version will state us to reduce each week. We are probably deep in yourself, know the answer to the question, if we have the courage to place it.

Burkeman’s advice:

“Choose an unpleasant extension over a comfortable reduction whenever you can.”

Yes, sometimes chasing “uncomfortable extension” does not result in an agreement on the text, or a successful job. I chose an unpleasant path and sometimes things fail. But it is part of the process, and at least it removes the potential for unhealthy regret!

Which leads me to today’s mission.

It is comfortable to be uncomfortable

We haunt the annoying expansion in 2025. years.

• When you run the train, Our muscles forces that I am accidentally placed harder and harder weights – they react by growing and adjustment.
• If we use food as a mechanism to deal When we are sad or angry or boring, it deals with our food connection can be uncomfortable.
• When we have unpleasant conversations, We can finally deepen your relationships or stand up for things that matter to us.

In 2025. Let’s ask the question:

Where in your life do you live tightly in comfort and safety, when turn down deeply You know the path of “uncomfortable extension” is what you really need to grow and help you get what you really want?

You may not need to leave the job right away or turn on to a new goal or change …

But that would be possible to ask that unpleasant question.

Life is hard, and the change is harder.

Uncomfortable.

Scarying.

Messy.

But if you are willing to say not consolation, it could be exactly what you need.

-Steve

PS: ​We do a free 5-day workshop​ For people who want to build new habits that are actually held in 2025. years, it starts in a few days!